wedding craziness
I have had my first wedding melt down. It was silent and, luckily, swift.
I realized that I was expecting my poor mother to communicate about a page and a half of single spaced information to 74 of my closest relatives. Most of the information had only been decided within the last few weeks - some of which she only heard about tucked into rambles about work/cats/wedding. It was a little bit of craziness.
I feel as if I've been initiated into the fold.
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Quick pep talk. . . .
Even with a planning genius like yourself the quantity of details in planning a wedding is bound to hit you every once in a while. As someone who has done a few events, I'll share my quiet advice from one planner to another.
I recommend a large bottomed glass of red wine (maybe two depending on the severity of the meltdown). That's basically it, but if that doesn't work.. . .
Dare I say it, and if you repeat this to anyone, I'll deny it -- I sit and visualize the day. Just get comfortable, with iphone put away, mac book off, just see the day. See all of us dancing, the random introductions of crazy friends with even crazier family, slightly violent dancing from very caucasian guests, ribbon ends waving in the breeze from perfectly sewn table cloths, grabbing beautiful pastel colored cardigans to drape over sundresses as the evening sets in, and above all else. . .
A celebration of you and Dave. A toast to your joyous journey. A quiet reminder to you of the family and friends who vow to support your marriage -- for better and for worse.
In this vision, the ideal text inside the invitation dissolves, perfect food, photos, or the ideal Crate and Barrel registry fall to the back burner (well, except a really nice registry because I believe a perfect coffee maker and a lovely duvet cover actually does make life better ;-) )
Since I know your intention to be completely pure your vision will help you prioritize - WHAT IS A MOST IMPORTANT TO YOU. Although you want to care for family and friends -- you aren't responsible for us. We are capable strong people who can keep ourselves busy, print out our own directions, and are in no way expecting a perfect day, but we also know the perfect day will manifest itself regardless.
All that said, pulling together an event like this has a ton of details, deposits, and direction. It is a lot to do. Thank god you are so organized and you have tons of experience with events to prime you.
Most importantly, just remember you could get married in a paper bag with the vows exchanged in an alley -- it would be great because it is you. It will be great because it is Dave. A party will be had no matter what you do. There is no doubt in my mind, that it will be a wonderful continuation of your life together.
So I love you. Hang in there.
Thanks for the pep talk! I'm feeling like it will be a good time. I'm hoping that it is not jankey. But, really, I know it is going to be great. Really, with you guys there for my wedding, how could it not be!
xo
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